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Check out the learning spaces for Victims, Practitioners and Muslim Specific issues. I explain terms used in criminal justice to take away the fear you might have. If you couple it with the Resource section, your journey to recovery should be less fearful.

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Meet Ruby

Ruby Raja is the creator of The Define Yourself Method - an Identity and Relationship program. With a vision of healing embedded in trusting and empowering each person she meets, Ruby is creating systems for people to thrive in.

As a certified (ACCPH certified) trauma facilitator licensed to deliver the BeyondTrauma modality, she creates safe spaces for men and women to heal from invisible, hidden pain. Whether you’re going through a divorce, are already divorced, have experienced relationship, childhood, or generational trauma, Ruby can help you heal safely.

  • "I learnt to separate culture from religion in my decision making processes." (Bespoke 1:1)

    A.N. 2020, London, UK

  • "The Bespoke 1:1 validated my feelings with evidence and fact. I learnt how patriarchy affected my life and how culture governed my thought processes."

    T.S. 2021, England

  • "I would recommend this unreservedly. The programme moves you forward, provides a plan and gives strategies to use. The delivery was great - I shared things I'd never shared."

    M.C. 2021 - Wales, UK

  • "I found the programme was a constructive way to revisit my past, it helped me review traumatic events in my life that I had regrets about - I had major breakthroughs. I really enjoyed the mind map, it helped me get in touch with my feelings and identify my emotions."

    N.W. 2021 - Florida, USA

  • "If I’d had all this information before, I wouldn’t have wasted 7 years of my life. I would have left him earlier and wouldn’t have suffered as much. If you know your rights, where to go and what to do it changes everything - there’s help out there."

    I.N. 2021 - London, England (completed both programs)

  • “Ruby, you need to write a book about what you taught me then take that book and tour the USA. Two sessions with you have been more useful for me than 7 years of counselling.”

    K.C. 2001, Florida USA

  • "I thought I’d overcome my issues but they all started coming out - With the domestic violence programme I learnt how to deal with abuse from my husband and family. With the trauma programme I learnt how to techniques to cope with my depression - I learnt how not to keep falling back into the same cycle."

    F.A. 2021 - South West England (completed both programs)

  • "You’re the bridge where East meets West. I feel I can explore and ask questions. I know I can simply be me."

    S.L 1983 - London, England