I’d worked with narcissism and coercive control for 25 years before I knew the legal terminology. People spoke about their partners as if they were monsters so I became a Probation Officer. I quickly realised that abusers lives were littered with pain and trauma.

My masters thesis, How Men Escaped the Self-Imposed Controls of Marriage looked at the role of patriarchy, culture, religion and self-imposed control at the time of leaving relationships ‘Define Yourself!’ my DV program emerged as women told me they became free using information I had given them. They told me they understood what was happening in their mind and body.

I found the BeyondTrauma program in November 2020 because I’d been attacked. It was so useful I became a facilitator in 2021 and a trauma informed practice practitioner in 2025.