Define Yourself!

Define Yourself! is for anyone 18+ who has experienced DVA and/or Trauma so they can find themselves.

My clients tell me this program transformed their lives, so I decided to make it available for everyone.

Define Yourself! (DY!) guides you to understanding what happened to you and how it happened.  

If you’re feeling unsafe in your home, it helps you explore how this has happened and what you can do. If you’re feeling invisible, unseen and unheard, as many women told me they were, it guides you to learning how you arrived here. DY! teaches you that you have rights and people find they can exercise them once they understand this. So if you’re feeling confused, don’t know what to do or where to go, why not connect with me? You won’t recognise yourself in 6 months…

Define Yourself! is 9 weeks long - the first session is 2 hours long.

Each session lasts 60 -75 minutes and you can share as much or as little as you choose to. Weekly sessions are encouraged. Price TBC.

  • We explore who you are, your history, your time-line. You get to tell your story and be listened to.

  • I introduce you to the Power and Control Wheel and the Cycle of Abuse by Lenore Walker - you’ll get an inside Seat to how abuse works.

  • Using your history, including how you were raised (parented) we explore your values, beliefs and attitudes. Do you believe you are worthy? Do you believe you can change your beliefs and attitudes?


  • We look at how women are taught to control their desires while men aren’t. We take a deep dive into gendered parenting - my personal bug Bear. What makes you happy & what is it you would like to do or be?

  • Abusers have a PhD in isolation, they thrive on it. In this session we look at how they isolate you from family and friends, and what it does to you.

  • We look at the impact of abusive behaviour and what it does to the victim and any child/ren individually and collectively.

  • Identify what was missing in your childhood and how you want to manage this now.

    What would you want to do or say to your younger self vs what you have to do to achieve it.

    Focus is on YOU, Your Journey and Your Story - as you see it.

  • Identity and your Rights, finding the Nugget closest to your heart. Most women struggle to answer this question.

    They’ve never thought about what makes them happy and few have been asked.

  • The World is waiting for you, yes YOU.

    Where do you want to go from here?

    Education, Employment, Entrepreneur?

UK: 1 in 4 women & 1 in 6 men experience Domestic Violence (DV).

1 in 5 children are exposed to DV.

USA: 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men experience DV.

Statistics for children run into millions and we know they are higher than what research suggests.‍